Congratulations Mom, this month your little one will be one year old, yes. How does it grow? Of course he has gone through various stages of development that make Mother both amazed and proud. Well, at the age of one year, he usually begins to learn to walk on his own and is increasingly independent. But emotionally, the little one is also not comfortable feeling as a separate individual from the mother. Therefore, when he feels tired, sick or scared, he still needs Mother’s presence beside him to make him feel comfortable and safe. In addition to becoming more independent, your little one also begins to learn to express his emotions. One type of expression that you may encounter in children aged 1 year and over, is a tantrum. Let’s identify the causes and how to overcome them.
What are Tantrums?
Tantrum is a condition in which your child shows extreme or even aggressive behavior because he feels frustrated or angry. This behavior can be found in children aged 1 to 3 years. Tantrums are usually expressed in the form of crying, screaming, hitting, throwing things, pushing or biting. What caused it? In addition to physiological triggers such as feeling tired, hungry or sick, tantrums can also be caused by frustration. This frustration is caused because the little one has a strong desire to be independent, but at the same time wants to get the full attention of parents. Plus, he doesn’t yet have the ability to communicate his desires well and manage his emotions. According to research, five to seven percent of children aged one to three can exhibit 15-minute tantrums up to three times a week or more. But don’t worry too much, ma’am. As he gets older and begins to learn to understand, communicate and manage his feelings, the frequency of his tantrums will decrease.
5 Tips for Overcoming Tantrums
Dealing with your little one who is having a tantrum does require patience, Mom. Moreover, one year old children generally cannot speak to express their desires and feelings. Therefore, you should do the following tips:
Stay calm. If your child starts to be aggressive, for example throwing things, say “don’t hit things,” in a firm and neutral tone. Don’t panic and take a calm approach.
Grant your child’s request, only if the request is reasonable and related to his needs. However, don’t always follow and give in to his wishes, Mom. Giving in to his demands can amplify his tantrums.
Divert his attention. There are many ways to get your little one to forget their tantrums. Take her to another room, or offer her a favorite toy. Invite him to sing, or do his other favorite activities. Mother can also invite her to choose something when she has a tantrum so that the little one forgets and feels in control.
Learn tantrum patterns. That way, Mom can prepare tactics to avoid it. For example, if he tends to have tantrums when he’s hungry, prepare a healthy snack to keep him full. If he tends to have tantrums when he doesn’t get enough rest, always make it a priority to get his ideal sleep.
Stay consistent. Mother’s consistency from day to day in dealing with her tantrums is the key to reducing the frequency of tantrums. So, try to always be consistent. For example, if you initially said ‘no’, then be consistent in saying ‘no’.
Don’t forget to always invite him to chat so he’s smarter in communicating his feelings, Mom. However, if needed, the mother can consult about her tantrum with a doctor or child psychologist to get the right treatment.